Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Monday, November 27, 2006

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Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Call of Home - SQUARE Hospitals Ltd.

Square Hospital commercials urging foreign trained Bangladeshi physicians to return to Bangladesh.

It's really a touching video that SQAURE Commercial made. They made it in perspective of the Foreign Trained Physicians. But i would like to say all foreign residents to think like that. Lets build our own country by our own better thoughts without fighting and arguing on present political situation. Try to feel the video and realize. Thanks again to SQUARE Commercials. It's a good starting!

Game Of Love

Monday, November 20, 2006

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Monday, November 13, 2006

Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Arranged marriages: A bride's perspective

The concept of arranged marriages has changed. And, not just for men. As a woman, ideally, your life partner should be someone with whom you can share interests and who will encourage your independence. As with any relationship, friendship is the key. Good communication from the beginning will help ensure that yours is a lasting, loving partnership.
Let's take a look at how to go about looking for these characteristics in the context of an arranged marriage.

New avatars:
Arranged marriages are not like they were, say, 20 years ago. "It is now more like meeting someone through your family or like being set up for a blind date," says Rachna Shukla, 25, a Web designer who had an arranged marriage earlier this year. "Parents or friends introduce the couple and let them talk via phone or email, meet a couple of times, and then ask for a decision. If the couple says No, it's a No. However, when parents are involved, there will inevitably be some pressure as they can't help but give their opinion and advice," she adds.
These days, couples often initiate the dialogue themselves, through matrimonial sites (as parents may not be familiar with computers) and end up being the ones introducing each other to their parents.
"I call it an 'arranged introduction' , as the choice is solely left to the couple. I feel this is the natural direction in which 'arranged marriages' are headed," says Chetna Johari, 27, a computer engineer who is presently on the manhunt.
"Another difference is that it is no longer only the guy who decides first. Girls have an equal prerogative to do so. Also, as women are now more career-oriented and financially independent, they are usually not in a hurry," continues Chetna.

What are you looking for?
The first thing to keep in mind is to make a list (at least mentally) of attributes you would want in your life partner, so you can focus better on your search. Depending upon your preferences, some factors that might be taken into consideration (not necessarily in this order) are -- job, salary, educational qualifications, appearance (looks, height, weight, etc.), caste, horoscope, values (traditional, liberal or moderate), habits (drinking, smoking, etc.), location, family background, social standing, etc.

Inform your parents:
It's best to spell out any preferences beforehand, so your parents can search accordingly and the list can be narrowed down. This way, you will save your parents' time as well. "As I have a non-transferable job in Delhi, I would prefer a Delhi-based match," says Shalini Srivastava, 24, who works with an NGO and is looking for a life partner.

Meeting your 'could-be':
Deciding to marry someone is one of the most important decisions of your life. If you are confused, unsure or awkward, don't fret -- so is the other person. Just a few things you can keep in mind when you meet your could-be significant other:

Wear something that is both flattering and comfortable. Try meeting away from relatives. Choose a neutral venue like a coffee shop. Pretend that you are on a blind date and try to enjoy yourself.

Don't approach the meeting with the mindset that you have to marry this person. Don't think you'll be sure to hate him either.

Before, during, and after:
Before meeting, try getting in touch with the person over the phone or through e-mail to prepare you, to some extent, for what to expect. During the meeting, keep an open mindset. Relax and just be yourself. Don't hesitate to discuss important issues. Afterwards, think calmly and give yourself time to assess. Although this meeting may not indicate if this is 'the' person you should marry, it can certainly tell you whether you want to get to know the person better and take a step forward.
If, at any time during the meeting, you realise it won't work, keep your cool, be polite, and try to keep it as short as possible. "Trusting your gut feeling is the most important -- if you feel something is not right, it probably is not," advises Rachna.

Ask away!:
It's perfectly okay to ask any questions you have in mind. But remember, timing is the key. For example, it can be outright insulting and offensive if the very first question is 'How much do you earn, both net and gross?'
"Sometimes, information is not offered voluntarily and one hesitates to ask. But, if the answer to a question is important in taking matters further, there is no harm in asking. Maybe the person you ask will feel offended. But, when you are taking such an important decision, you have to take that risk. Isn't it better that they feel bad now, rather than you feeling worse later?" asks Rachna.

General questions that could be asked once you get familiar
  • Are you ready for marriage?
  • How would you describe yourself?
  • How do you like to spend your free time?
  • How do you feel about smoking and/or drinking?
  • What are you looking for in a spouse?
  • How much time do you want to decide?
  • What are your preferences, in terms of food (non-vegetarian or vegetarian)?
  • How do you feel about pets?
  • What is your family like?
  • What are your likes and dislikes?
  • How do you act when you get upset?
  • How often will we visit our extended family (if staying apart from them)?
  • Do you believe in sharing housework?
Appropriate questions on the profession front:
  • What are your future career plans?
  • How much time do you spend at work?
  • Are you looking for a working wife, housewife, or is it immaterial to you?
  • What would we do in the situation that I get transferred?
Background research:
Although researching the boy's background might seem painstaking, it is very important. "My friend got married to a very charming boy with a very good job. As he was from a reputed family too, they didn't bother to ask about his habits. It was only after marrying him that she found out he had a drinking problem," says Shalini.

The difficulty of researching goes up a notch when the boy is abroad, especially if you don't have any friends/relatives to help you out there. This was the case with Asha (name changed), who married an NRI in the US only to discover, when she got there, that he had a live-in American girlfriend.
Thus, it would be wise to make discreet inquiries outside with the help of relatives and friends, with respect to his job, family background, age, education, habits, financial condition, medical history, lifestyle, etc.
"You can get an employer verification to find out if he is working there or not. Definitely check the visa status. You may also ask for a proof of employment letter, request a medical test, etc. Try calling discreetly at an odd hour to see who picks up the phone at night. You can hire a detective to do a background check (this is expensive, however). If you have friends and family abroad, ask them to meet him and find out more," says Chetna.

Additionally, communicate regularly through email, phone, chat, etc. to get a better idea about the person.

Previous relationships:
"These days, it is not uncommon at all to have had a previous relationship. If my partner had a previous relationship, I would try and be reasonable and objective about it. It depends on many factors like the type of relationship, duration, feelings, etc. As long as it is a thing of the past and he is now committed to his marriage, I would probably not mind," says Shalini.
"However, finding out about a potential partner's previous sexual history is next to impossible. Asking such personal questions will seem too embarrassing, " says Rachna. "Arranged marriages involve the whole family and private information coming out in the open could have severe repercussions, so some may not openly disclose this aspect," says Dr. Bhaskar Gupta, 29, a pathologist who had an arranged marriage last year.

A medical checkup?
"Both partners getting a blood test is absolutely a must. If the boy's side feels offended, help by telling them that you are convinced about getting it done yourself too," says Chetna. "Actually, it is difficult for the girl or the girl's side to ask this, but I wish every person going through an arranged marriage would have the courage to insist on such tests. Isn't it better to be safe than sorry?" she continues.
"There are cases where, out of hesitation, marriages have taken place without such insistence, based solely on the goodwill of the family. The boys have been discovered to be HIV-positive later," says Dr. Bhaskar.
"A blood test should be made compulsory for couples before marriage. Today, more boys and girls are choosing to go together to a clinic and get the test done before marriage. Some experts advise on making a thalassemia test mandatory before marriage too, for couples in high-incidence states, on the lines of the Goa Government's plan for compulsory pre-matrimony HIV screening," he continues.

Is he the one?
Finally, there should be mutual consent and understanding from both sides; only then can a marriage be sustained. "It is important that you like your prospective partner enough to marry him," says Rachna. Good arranged marriages occur when the parents support and help their children find life partners

Please dont miss Arranged marriages: A Groom's perspective coming soon
Some of the Inspiring Quotes which tell not to give up in life so you can learn something from these Quotes
1) Never expext things to happen..struggle and make them happen. never expect yourself to be given a good value..creat a value of ur own
2) If a drop of water falls in lake there is no identity.But if it falls on a leaf of lotus it shine like a pearl.so choose the best place where you would shine..
3) Falling down is not defeat...defeat is when ur refuse to get up...
4) Ship is always safe at shore... but is is not built for it
5) When ur successful your wellwishers know who you are when you are unsuccessful you know who ur welwishers are
6) It is great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him/her

Never take some one for granted,Hold every person Close to your Heart because you might wake up one day and realise that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones." Remember this always in life.

source: Odhora Yahoo Group

We were fighting terrorism - Afganistan vs. US

Today i saw a post in Odhora Yahoo Group where someone has posted about Afganistani Terrorism. Please read the following Post Content i am pasting to share with you all.

Did you know that:

a.. USA supported Bin Laden and the Taliban for
years, and viewed them as
freedom fighters against the Russians?

b.. As late as 1998, the US was paying the salary of
every single Taliban
official in Afghanistan ?

c.. There is more oil and gas in the Caspian Sea ,
but you need a pipeline
through Afghanistan to get that out?

d.. UNOCAL, a giant oil conglomerate, wanted to
build a 1000 mile pipeline
from the Caspian Sea through Afghanistan to the
Arabian Sea?

e.. UNOCAL spend $ 10,000,000,000 on geological
&nb sp; studies for the pipeline
construction, and courted the Taliban for their
support in allowing the construction to begin?

f.. All leading Taliban officials were in Texas
negotiating with UNOCAL in 1998?

g. In 1999, Taliban changed its mind and threw
UNOCAL out of the country
and awarded the pipeline project to a company in Argentina?

h.. John Maresca, VP of UNOCAL testified before
Congress and said no
pipeline should be set until the Taliban was gone
and a more friendly government
was established?

i.. After 1999, the Taliban became the most evil
people in the world

j. In 2001, Bush declares war against Afghanistan ,
though not a single
Afghani was involved in the plane hijacking?

k.. Bush blamed Bin Lade n, but did not offer any
proof, saying it was confidential?

l.. Talibans offered to hand over Bin Laden if there
was proof, but Bush
bombed Afghanistan instead?

m.. We now have a new government in Afghanistan ,
which is friendlier?

n.. That the leader of the new government is one
gentleman called Hamid
Karzai, who formerly worked for UNOCAL?

o.. Bush appoints a special envoy (Lakhdar Ibrahimi)
to represent the US
to deal with the new government. This special envoy
was formerly chief
consultant to UNOCAL?

p.. The US government quietly announces in January
2002 that it will
support the Trans-Afghan pipeline construction?

q.. President Musharraf and Hamid Karzai announce
agreement in February
2002 to build proposed gas pipeline from Central
Asia to Pakistan through Afghanistan?

And you thought we were fighting terrorism
here, didn't you? :)

Now the question to everyone.. Are we really able to know the Real mystery?

Friday, November 03, 2006

Thursday, November 02, 2006

Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Politcal Violance in Bangladesh

It was just few days just after we passed one (1) whole month of Ramadan. And after the month of Ramadan passed we enjoyed the days of Eid. People whatever his religion was ( Hindu, Mslim, Chirstian, Buddho) enjoyed the holidays with family and relatives and most of them passed times in good. But suddenly just after 3 days in 28th October 2006. A political coallision occured and a messup occured into the whole country (Bangladesh). It was really something unexpected, but expected to the person who were the key person leading the messup and violance.

Did you ever saw people killing or bitting a human beign as like killing a snake? Can you believe that people could be so rude? Are they human? Were their eyes open? Were they blind, so much that they didn't even feel what they were doing? How could a person kill another person so easily without thinking any other option? Are we really human beign living in this Country? Are we the puppet of the corrupted Politics in Bangladesh? What is our future? What will our future generation learn from these scene?

I am really sorry for Bangladeshi people who are still living in this country, the person who wants to get back to home and sattle down in his own motherland with new business and new development plan, feel sorry for the the Bangladeshi patriots, feel sorry for the Freedom fighters fought in 1971 and the person who died for the Independence. Are we really free? Independent to have our own choice? Is this called Freedom? This is the way of using Freedom?

Make Life Worthy

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