Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Please appreciate "HER"

Tomorrow you may propose a working woman, but you should marry with these facts firmly grounded in your mind........


Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that
gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who
love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family
name,

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you
sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment
and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook
food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,
and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,
a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that
you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than
you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at
her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing
to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy,
unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply
because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like
yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows
in your entire house - Your unstinted support, Your sensitivities and most importantly - Your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......Please appreciate "HER"


Collected from my sister Putul's collection

3 comments:

Ruhani Rabin said...

Well I already enough educated to Appreciate "HER"

Mahee said...

I liked the writing...its approximately true or i can say appropriate for girls like us who spend student life bein always pampered from the teachers, friends for bein gud student, and also at workplace gettin all d care from the senior colleagues, but while marryin someone, wondering whether I will be able to do my phd to stick to ma teaching profession....its really a relevant piece of writing..but i wish myself luck :-)

Tahmid Munaz said...

What i feel like we need to change our mentalities... it's not only a request for you or me.. It's a practice requesting to all; everyone surrounding us :)

People should speak up and let others to think about it. We need to change our typical thoughts and asking a lot :)

You or me could be well enough educated, but we need to let others know about it :) So, pass it on! :)

 
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